I think we’ve all heard the term “stay-cation” now, to indicate a “stay-at-home” vacation, right? Being a stay-at-home mom, I’m sure some would say every day is a “stay-cation” for me. At which I’d laugh and laugh, as would every other stay-at-home mom. Nothing at all “vacation-y” about laundry, dishes, vacuuming, cooking, and other general cleaning and care-taking of your family. I suspect that whole stay-cation thing is kind of a joke for stay at home moms, because there’s no day off for the mom. That’s just simple reality, and acknowledging that isn’t a complaint. It just, simply, is. I have come to accept that. What is a big deal for me now is a chance to reduce the chores. Skipping laundry for a day, or the vacuuming, now that’s kind of vacation-y. Not having to do something I regularly have to do is a sort of mini-vacation. I have built-in such days into my schedule – every 5th Wednesday of a month is a “day-cation” for me.
Which is the long way around bringing me to what I wanted to post about, heh. This past 2-4 weeks were a blast for me and my family. The kids and I had our usual month off of school for December, and my husband was also able to take off the last 2 weeks of the year from work. And all we did was play. We played computer games and video games and kind of tuned out the world in a lot of ways (I still did the daily upkeep for our church website though, so I wasn’t completely unplugged, and of course, I had some posts pre-scheduled here). It seemed we all, without even talking about it, decided that whatever it was could wait until the end of vacation and now was the time to just relax. It’s been a long time since I’ve seen my husband so stress-free, and it was wonderful. He’s a worrier by nature so to see him just let things go was a real blessing for me, and I think for him too.
The only dark spot was the loss of someone I have come to care about. I don’t know if you recall, last summer I was commissioned by a friend of our Rabbi to put together a website for the ministry he (the friend, not the Rabbi) was working for. He was recovering from a leukemia battle and seemed to really be on the upswing and winning. Sadly, he passed away right before Christmas, and it breaks my heart to know he’ll never call me again and ask me to take care of something on the website for him. He had a great heart and a real joy and optimism about him and we had a lot of fun during the times he came over to discuss website issues. He had a real passion for the ministry he was involved in and a great vision for expanding it. I think the hardest post I’ve ever put up was the one telling our congregation about his death. It is a comfort knowing he is in Heaven now, but I am still really going to miss him.
Except for that, it was a great “play-cation” for us. One that just seemed to gel perfectly. At the beginning of the year, we read the 2014 blessings from our Blessing Jar, and that just capped things off in a great way. I think we’ve found a new tradition to embrace. Some people are calling it The Happiness Jar, I think. No matter, it’s what’s inside that counts.
Lastly, overheard at school this morning, my son commented: “Capital cursive Z looks like 3 got drunk and had a car accident.” Oh, that boy makes me laugh!
And how was your day?