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Topics: Gallant

My word for the week, today, is Gallant.

This is my son.  He’s had a solid appreciation for the Titan character in the Destiny video game, which is modeled after knights of yore.  Sometimes we’ll talk about those stories and legends.  He asked me once to define just what chivalry meant to me, which of course led to discussions on the nature of the relationship between men and women, both past and present, and everything in between.  Even at sixteen, he’s got some pretty hard-wired notions of how men are supposed to treat women, and the kind of relationship he hopes to have in the future.  She is going to be one lucky young lady, and I’m not just saying that because it’s my son, but because I know my son will treat her like a queen.  He will do all he can to treat her like a lady, to make sure she knows how precious she is to him, and he will protect her with everything he has.  Not because he thinks she’s incapable of protecting herself, but because he believes that as his sweetheart, she simply deserves to be treated like a cherished treasure. 

Plus, he’s not the type to let his heart go walking around outside without making sure it’s safe, lol.  He’ll be a “helicopter husband,” I’m sure. 

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1. Smartly or boldly stylish; dashing: a gallant feathered hat; cut a gallant figure at the coronation.


a. Unflinching in battle or action; valiant: put up a gallant resistance to the attackers.

b. Nobly or selflessly resolute: made a gallant attempt to save her friend’s reputation.

3. Stately; majestic: a gallant ship.


a. Courteously attentive especially to women; chivalrous.

b. Flirtatious; amorous.

n. (gə-lănt′, -länt′, găl′ənt)

1. A fashionable young man.


a. A man courteously attentive to women.

b. A male lover, especially one who is courteously attentive.

v. (gə-lănt′, -länt′) gal·lant·ed, gal·lant·ing, gal·lants

To woo or pay court to (a lady).


To play the gallant.

[Middle English galaunt, from Old French galant, present participle of galer, to rejoice, of Germanic origin; see wel- in Indo-European roots.]

gal′lant·ly adv.

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Topics: Fragile

My word for the day, this week, is Fragile.

Raise your hand if you want to pronounce this word as “fra-jee’-lay” because you’ve seen A Christmas Story.  😀  All these years later, I still want to pronounce it that way every time I see it.  It makes me chuckle.

And then I think of that awful plastic lamp!  Which turned out to be way more fragile than I would have expected plastic to be, lol.

However, what really drew me to the word fragile this week is people and relationships.  People are fragile.  Our hearts are so easily broken.  And there are too many people only too eager to contribute to that breaking.

It should be a given that babies come with the label “Fragile, handle with care!”  Unfortunately, too many seem to forget that.  We never really lose that label either, even though lots of us may deny that.  I think that denial is a shield, personally.  I believe everyone wants to feel like their heart is being tenderly cradled in someone’s caring hand.

There is no weakness in kindness, in being tender-hearted.  I believe kindness requires strength.  Can you imagine being kind to someone who’s being a jerk to you?  Being a jerk back is easy.  Kindness is hard.

Kindness isn’t fragile, and it’s good for what is.

What’s on your mind this week?

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1. able to be broken easily

2. in a weakened physical state

3. delicate; light: a fragile touch.

4. slight; tenuous: a fragile link with the past.

[C17: from Latin fragilis, from frangere to break]

ˈfragilely adv

fragility, fragileness n

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Topics: Erratic

Today, my word for the week is Erratic.

Right now, it seems to suit me, even though I don’t like being erratic.  I like consistency and routine.  I don’t care for surprises and spontaneity.  Impulsiveness worries me.  I have had enough surprises and I don’t like them anymore. 

However, I am in a cycle of transition.  Going from a vampire schedule to a morning glory one.  Well, trying anyway, lol.  Trying to get back on track with my diet, with my cleaning routine, blah blah blah.  I know I sound like the most boring person on earth, and I sound that way because it’s true.  And I am totally good with that.  I find comfort in the boring now.  My “wild child” days, tame as they probably seem in hindsight, are long done now.   

Strange as it may sound, I feel like once I get under all the erraticism I am currently working through, I will get back to the heart of me.  Chaos may currently reign, but no chaos every withstood a good dose of order, and I got organization in spades.  😀

What are you focused on or working through this week?

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1. Having no fixed or regular course; wandering: the erratic flight of a moth.

2. Lacking consistency, regularity, or uniformity: an erratic heartbeat.

3. Deviating from the customary course in conduct or opinion; eccentric: erratic behavior.

n. Geology

A rock fragment that has been transported by ice to a location other than its place of origin and that may range in size from a pebble to a large boulder.

[Middle English erratik, from Old French erratique, from Latin errāticus, from errāre, to wander; see ers- in Indo-European roots.]

er·rat′i·cal·ly adv.

er·rat′i·cism (-ĭ-sĭz′əm) n.

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1. irregular in performance, behaviour, or attitude; inconsistent and unpredictable

2. having no fixed or regular course; wandering


3. (Geological Science) a piece of rock that differs in composition, shape, etc, from the rock surrounding it, having been transported from its place of origin, esp by glacial action

4. an erratic person or thing

[C14: from Latin errāticus, from errāre to wander, err]

erˈratically adv

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(ɪˈræt ɪk)

1. inconsistent or changeable in behavior; unpredictable.

2. deviating from the usual or proper course; eccentric.

3. having no certain or definite course; wandering; not fixed.

4. (of a boulder, etc.) carried by glacial ice and deposited some distance from its place of origin.


5. an erratic or eccentric person.

6. an erratic boulder or the like.

[1325–75; Middle English < Latin errāticus=errā(re) to wander, err + -ticus adj. suffix]

er•rat′i•cal•ly, adv.

er•rat′i•cism, n.

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Topics: Destiny

Today, my word for the week is Destiny.

I can’t even see that word now without thinking of my kids.  For us, Destiny is a video game.  My kids have been avid players for about two years now.  I mean, we have some homemade Destiny type costumes, we have some Destiny artwork, Destiny clothes, Destiny posters on their walls, stickers for their game console – even my husband plays sometimes.  Destiny is big at my place.  We even keep up with Destiny news in the gamer magazines.  Everyone even mimics some of the character voices and expressions on occasion.  Yes, even I will pop off with a line every so often.  😉  Destiny has brought our family together in a few ways.  It’s given my husband a great way to spend time with the kids doing something they love, and there have been plenty of times that we’ve spent just watching the kids play instead of watching a movie, since the game can be so interactive and immersive. 

As for destiny in the sense of predetermination, I don’t think I believe in that.  I do believe the future is known, but not that our actions are outside of our control.  It’s a bit hard to explain, I guess.  Me knowing you are going to click the red X button when you’re done reading, does not mean I’m making you click the red X button.  I just know you will.  Does that help?  That’s basically my view on it.  🙂

Do you have a word for the week?

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n. pl. des·ti·nies

1. The inevitable or necessary fate to which a particular person or thing is destined; one’s lot.

2. A predetermined course of events considered as something beyond human power or control: “Marriage and hanging go by destiny” (Robert Burton).

3. The power or agency thought to predetermine events: Destiny brought them together. Destiny – definition of destiny by The Free Dictionary

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Topics: Caliber

Today, this week, my word is Caliber:



1. A level of superiority that is usually high:

merit, quality, stature, value, virtue, worth.

2. Degree of excellence:

class, grade, quality.

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Caliber – definition of caliber by The Free Dictionary

No, not caliber as in bullets, although that could be fun, too.  Have you see those 50 caliber kind?  They’re huge!  But, I digress.

I hope to be a high caliber person.  It’s a goal.  I often think that sometimes some people people are just born as high caliber people.  They seem to have some innate sense of dignity and honor.  Other times, I think that all people have the capacity to be high caliber and that some just choose not to be.  Sometimes I think some people are just born broken, other times I think there was an event or circumstance that broke them.

There’s a little riddle my husband likes to use, it goes, “If a man steals a horse, does that make him a horse thief or prove him a horse thief?”  Sometimes, watching people ponder this can be as telling as their answer. 

High caliber people don’t steal horses.

I have a long way to go.  I know this.  I don’t know that I’ll ever get there, in fact I probably won’t, because who ever actually achieves that level?  But I can try, and I will.  Every day is a chance to be who I hope to be, to continue striving. 

My future self is depending on me. 

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