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Topics: Balance

Today, this week, my word is Balance.

bal·ance

(băl′əns)

n.

1. A weighing device, especially one consisting of a rigid beam horizontally suspended by a low-friction support at its center, with identical weighing pans hung at either end, one of which holds an unknown weight while the effective weight in the other is increased by known amounts until the beam is level and motionless. Also called scale.

2. A state of equilibrium or parity characterized by cancellation of all forces by equal opposing forces.

3. The power or means to decide: matters that fell outside the judge’s balance.

4.

a. A state of bodily equilibrium: thrown off balance by a gust of wind.

b. The ability to maintain bodily equilibrium: Gymnasts must have good balance.

5. A harmonious or satisfying arrangement or proportion of parts or elements, as in a design.

6. An influence or force tending to produce equilibrium; counterpoise.

7. The difference in magnitude between opposing forces or influences.

Balance – definition of balance by The Free Dictionary

I know so many struggle with finding balance in their lives.  We even have a pet phrase for it!  “Work-life balance.”  For lots of people, my husband included, I know it feels like too many companies don’t even know what that means for their employees.  But, that’s a particular topic for another post.

For me, balance boils down to the difference between taking care of everyone else, and taking care of me. 

I’m a firm believer in being a supportive wife and my husband and I have a more traditional kind of marriage where he works outside the home, and I do the things inside the home.  I think of it as the external provision he provides, and the internal provision I provide.  I stay home and homeschool the kids, maintain the place (if you could call it that, lol) and take care of my husband.  The man gets up at 5:30 am to go out in the cold and the heat, to deal with people who are not necessarily pleasant to deal with, to provide the income for us to have what we have.  So, I have no problems making the man a sandwich, or doing other things for him.  It’s how I appreciate his efforts.  He’s always asking how he can help around the house as a way to appreciate me and my efforts here.  [For the record, I don’t let him.  I’m more of a “get out of my kitchen!” kind of girl, lol.] 

However, the kids are getting older and while they still need me to a certain extent, they are beginning that phase of “out-growing” me.  They don’t need me to give them a bath, that sort of thing.  Their baby days are gone, but I do still need to continue teaching them things about being an adult, so while my job is not really diminished, it has shifted.

It feels like it’s okay now to provide a little taking care of me time.  I’ve had zero issues setting aside my personal wants in favor of my kids.  It’s what moms do.  But now, now it feels like my time is growing.  Time for me to do some of the things I enjoy doing.  The trick is finding the balance.  I think I can do it.  I believe I can.  I think I can juggle this thing.  Maybe not gracefully, though!  lol 

Time will show. 

How about you?  Have you had trouble balancing things in your life?  Have you managed to find a successful, workable balance?  If so, how? 

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5 thoughts on “Topics: Balance

  1. Before I became a mother — a single mother from the start — I did what I believed I was supposed to do to live a “successful” life. I advanced my professional career with the Federal Government to a level few women had attained back then, and spent my free time pursuing hobbies and law school. I finished the first year at USD’s Law School shortly after I learned I was pregnant.

    After I had my son, I realized I had something much more important to do. I achieved a balance that worked for us by leaving the outside work force and supporting us by doing things I loved to do. I’ve always loved working with children, but never wanted to become a classroom teacher. I became a licensed Child Care Provider so I could stay home and give my son an environment in which he could develop effective socialization skills. We home-schooled from 3rd through 8th grade. At age 9, he wanted to join a children’s theater group, and as it happened, my degree is in Dramatic Arts. I’ve sewn since I was 11 years old, so I became a costumer. He enjoyed performing and then discovered he loved the tech side. I shifted my career from day care and volunteer costuming to seamstressing and costuming for money, and left day care altogether after 22+ years.

    Now, after performing at Disneyland for a year, working for years at Starbucks and a variety of restaurants, and helping to build a bar trivia company that allowed him to pursue both performance and tech, he has found a rewarding life with the Stagehands Union, working at the La Jolla Playhouse where many Broadway shows are born.

    During the last five years, I’ve worked on my writing skills, finished one YA SciFi novel, am almost finished with a fantasy/adventure serial, have written a number of short stories (two of which have been published in contest anthologies), and have several other works underway.

    And I love my life.

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    1. That is so awesome, and so amazing that you were able to shift your life around to suit your needs and your child’s needs! Few, it seems, are able to do that. If you could bottle that (or do a class on Teachable!) you’d make a mint!

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      1. That’s very kind of you to say. The first time I gave up a career for nothing but the hope of finding another career, was eight years before my son was born. I was terrified I’d fail. But I learned to do the work that had to be done so I didn’t fail. I think that’s the lesson. Every time I changed careers after that, I could look back and feel confident I’d be able to do the work I needed to do to succeed. I realized I didn’t have to let those changes scare me, I just had to take charge of making a future.

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        1. I remain so impressed by what you’ve accomplished! You seem to have mastered what my husband calls “switching horses in the middle of the race.” Trying to do that in the midst of bills to pay and whatnot, is a real skill. <2

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          1. Haha! Now, that sounds fool-hardy and dangerous. I see it more as keeping my eye on my island destination and knowing when to sail wing-and-wing or tack into the wind to get there. And if there’s no bucket to bail me out when I get swamped, I can always use my own two hands. 😉

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