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#atozchallenge Brought To You By The Letter F

 

Word of the Day: Following

It’s funny how I have a sort of knee-jerk response to this word.  A tiny one, depending on how it’s used, but it’s still there. 

I could say, “I’m following this blog, or that website,” and it’s not an issue at all.  But if it’s used in a context that implies something like being brain-washed, or a groupie, I kind of … well, let’s just say it hits the fan.  Internally, but I feel it.

My parents were divorced when I was young, and as I grew, any time I had a dispute with one of them, they’d accuse me of being brain-washed by the other.  If I was silent, I guess they thought that implied some kind of agreement, but if I disagreed, then I was brain-washed, an idiotic follower who didn’t have sense enough to come in out of the rain.

Like there’s anything wrong with rain! 

It never occurred to either one of them that perhaps it was their own behavior or beliefs or opinions with which I disagreed.  They never should have had an Irish kid, lol. 

As my first marriage crashed and burned, my mother was certain that someone or something had brain-washed me against her and my ex.  “Who are you following?” she’d demand.

“My own damn self!” I’d respond.

She was always certain I must have been following after some quasi-guru or something because surely I’d be in agreement with her if I wasn’t. 

Even after I re-married, if I disagreed with her about anything, she’d accuse me of being a follower.  “You’re just following that man you married!” 

Despite all those years of me disagreeing with her about numerous things, she still accused me of being a follower, a groupie basically, with no ability to think for myself. 

No one, except for my husband, seemed to understand, I follow no man.  That’s part of why he’s my husband, because he never expected or wanted me to follow him, just walk beside him. 

I am, of course, speaking of human men.  I do follow Jesus, and have no trouble saying that out loud.  I just pray you won’t judge Him based on how I follow Him, because I’m not very good at it.  Following was never my forte. 

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18 thoughts on “#atozchallenge Brought To You By The Letter F

  1. Good for you, being your own woman. We’re not sheep, mindlessly following others, we have our own mind. And you’re right, it’s about walking beside your man, not following him. Well said.

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    1. Absolutely not sheep, right?! I think the presumption that someone is a follower just because they don’t loudly protest also bothers me. I’m much more likely to just walk away, and silence can’t be misquoted either, so why argue with people who are only going to misconstrue anything you might say? That was a hard lesson.

      Yes, walking beside. I knew you’d understand. 🙂

      Thanks, hon! ❤

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  2. Hats off to the fact that you stood by your decisions and are now where you want to be 🙂 It is indeed difficult times when the people dear to us start questioning our judgements. But it takes a certain courage to stay firm on what we want and I love this post for conveying that 🙂 So happy that you found your man who appreciates your decisions and I so love the statement “because he never expected or wanted me to follow him, just walk beside him. ” ❤

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  3. I can relate. I’m a so much of a non-joiner/non-follower that it really limits what I’m willing to participate in. No problem; I’m pretty happy with my own company. 😉 Keep it up – you’re setting a good example for your kids, especially your daughter!

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    1. Thank you, Spark. 🙂 I hope she understands! She’s a little pistol, that one, so strong-willed and strong-minded. But, I do know all it takes is one sweet-talking guy to undo a lot of that. I hope to teach her how to be discerning, and discriminating, when it comes to her dates. 🙂

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